This Is Why I Blog

I've been blogging for 3 years (give or take) now, and through the many moves, relationships, drunken nights and trials this blog has been a port in the storm of my life. I've picked up consistent readers along the way, fellow bloggers have become a kind of family for me. I'm realizing now, though, that some of my newer readers, the one's I know that are based in the Bahamas and elsewhere and even some of the family members that may have stumbled upon the blog may be wondering why I've decided to participate in this very public forum. Besides that fact that I'm grown and I can do what I want...no shade...I though I'd write about my top 5 reasons (in bold) for blogging. Some of them are connected, maybe even almost the same...but every time I sit down to write one of these five things come to mind.


Blogging, at the end of the day, is about the story. Whether we're blogging about fashion, dating, the hottest party, or Nascar racing, bloggers have to be able to tell a story. I can't sing, even though if I could have any talent that's what I would want. I can't paint or draw, and I while I used to be able to dance my knees are decrepit and old. That explains why I can barely run, or play tennis. These are all talents I could've had, but never did had or have any longer. I blog because writing is my talent. I think in images, and for some reason I have the vocabulary and the instinct to put those words together in ways that paint those images. I'm afraid that if I don't write, I'll loose my talent. My blog is practice for me...

Beyond my desire to hone my skills, there is a personal philosophy that encourages my blogging. It actually centers on the story, and why the story is important. We look at people and make assumptions about them in an instant. Without hesitation, homeless people on the street become drug addicts, the lady in the short skirt and 5 inch heel is a whore, and the person that didn't say good morning back earlier in the day is a bitch. These assumptions change when we know a person's story, what they've been through, what they're going through. We often don't take time to listen to a persons story, or tell our own and I think the world would be a better place if we did. And, no shade...but my story can be pretty damn interesting at times...lol

This philosophy about the importance of the story bleeds into my political leaning and the fact is that I'm a political person. My mind even works in a political way. So it should be no surprise that my ideological leanings are at the core of why I blog. It may sound weird, but I think blogging can be an act of revolution. Not to sound too radical, but I think one of the most destructive components of the capitalist system is that it pits us against each with a false belief that competition for necessary resources is natural. In order to survive we are told to fight against each other, for jobs, money, homes, oil, water...this forces us to look at our fellow human beings as different, as others in order for us to feel justified stepping on them to get what we want. In reality though, we aren't really all that different. Gay, straight, black, white...what ever we are we feel, love, laugh, have fun, cry, and deal with addictions of all sorts. The specifics may be different but the idea is the same. I always hope that with every story I tell, with every experience I have, some str8 person, or some white person, or some female, or some American, or anyone who is different than me can relate to it and realize that we aren't so different after all. It's the socialist in me.

The other thing is I'm also forgetful. Ask anyone who knows me and they'll tell you that my memory is remarkably selective. When, why and how things happen tends to get a little lost in the Aquarian mist of my mind. My blog is a digital record keeper and so the important things that I'd like to remember, maybe even one day put in my memoirs, will find their way onto the blog. I get to keep things, and by writing about them I can also let them go. Sometimes my thoughts and feelings keep me up at night and my blog is the place I get work them out and put them away for safe keeping. It also means that I get to create my own kind of history. Like prehistoric man etching images on the wall, I can leave some lasting impression and write it how I want to remember it. Creating our own history is important, it can influence our paths going forward and if history is truly that significant we should be allowed to remember it how ever we'd like.

Lastly, I live a truly fabulous life and one day I'd like to be famous for living it. I am surround by people that I love and who love me back. I have friends and family in the Bahamas, in DC and all over the world. Despite the little I make at HRC, I can still eat at the best restaurants, feed a shopping obsession and attend some pretty amazing parties and clubs. I'm moving to London to further my education, for Lagerfeld's sake!! I have a job I love and a somewhat clear path to my future. I can't complain about my life, in fact I feel I should share it. It's a thumb in the eye of everyone that doubted me, and a celebration for everyone that has supported me. The great thing is...it's only going to get better!

This is why I blog. It's not difficult to understand, I don't think. If you have a blog, tell me, why do you do it? And, if you don't have a blog, why haven't you gotten one yet??
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